In all this I was reminded of something. That it mattered too much to me what my family thought of the title. That I only have to please Him. "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him." (Hebrews 11:6, NIV) The problem was never with my family, it was with me all along.
New Year's Resolution: Please God and everything else will fall into place.
Oh, a great site on snowflakes - http://www.its.caltech.edu/~atomic/snowcrystals/class/class.htm
Happy New Year!